Streamed live on August 5, 2024
VBC Scuttlebutt takes on the controversial and sensitive issue of redefining what it means to be a “Gold Star Family.” A Pentagon working group investigating whether the official definition should be broadened has shelved its report. Currently, Gold Star status is awarded to families of those who die in combat or due to combat-related causes, but there’s a proposal to include those who die from other causes, such as suicide, disease, or accidents, while on active duty or in the reserves.
The issue has split the military and veterans communities. Some argue that expanding the definition would recognize all forms of sacrifice made by service members. This broad definition is used and supported by organizations like the Military Officers of America Association (MOAA), TAPS, and Gold Star Wives of America. Others, including groups like the Wounded Warrior Project and the American Legion, believe the definition should remain narrow, reserved for those who die in combat, to preserve the distinction and honor associated with battlefield deaths.
The discussion touches on the complexities and emotional challenges of making such distinctions, noting that it can create a perceived “hierarchy of grief” among families. Vietnam veteran Bob Flaige discusses a similar debate in Jacksonville, Florida, regarding whether names of service members who died in non-combat situations should be added to a local memorial wall, with strong opinions on both sides. Gold Star Wife Becky Nyren gives her point of view.
It’s a respectful and thoughtful discussion, acknowledging the deep personal impact of the topic on families who have lost loved ones in service.
We also discuss “Words of Veterans,” a project by USMC veteran Alex Sebby. Mark Burnett talks about growing up at Camp LeJeune and the impact of the water contamination and the deadline to file a claim. Our “Veteran-in-the-Know,” Colonel Ron Gionta (USAF, ret), pays homage to his AFNG son, Anthony Gionta, who passed away at age 43 in July. Anthony was victim of the invisible wounds of war that is called PTSD.
These stories aren’t just for veterans; they’re for everyone who wants to understand the lives of those who served. Whether you’re a veteran seeking camaraderie, a civilian wanting to learn, or simply someone who appreciates the value of service, the VBC welcomes you with open arms. Join us online – become part of their mission to honor stories, build bridges, and ensure that every day is Veterans Day.
We’re grateful to UPMC for Life and Tobacco Free Adagio Health for sponsoring this event!
